Gulzar – The eternal journey of emotions

In an interview with Loksatta, Gulzar saab had once mentioned – a writer is more a writer by practice than by the skill. Gulzar is turning a whopping 84 years this 18th August. Of course he looks the same – no difference to his pure white aura. But every year, year after year, he continues to churn out the most beautiful and poignant lyrics of our times. How can a single man bring out such a treasure of emotions and thoughts is beyond my ability to comprehend? He is contemporary and classic at the same time and yet he exudes a wholesome honesty and innocence.  It’s sometimes surreal and unbelievable.

RAINS AND THE INDIAN LIFE !! Ahem !!

Now that the monsoons are in full swing, I have made some peculiar observations about rains and the effect they have on our blessed Indian lives. Also, these are predominantly related to Pune due to the obvious fact that I am fortunate to be living here. A heartfelt apology IN ADVANCE to those who would... Continue Reading →

15 of the most irritating and stupid Indian traits which only Indians can understand.

Take food home from a “durga mandap” or “ganpati bhandara” for the “elders” Elders ?? What rubbish excuse. We are the biggest bhukkads. Free me mile to sone pe suhaga. Don’t leave a tip but empty the bowl of “saunf” into your purse. We think its our right. If the waiter looks disgustingly – we flash our best smile and give him a royal ignore.   Use Nails/hooks to hang the shirst/trousers/t-shirts and TOWELS ????? Really. Money cant buy etiquettes.

Indian woman and her “Maika”

She goes there to watch her father lovingly tend to his garden and then scold her like childhood when she plucks a red rose. She goes there to listen to her brother teasing her “Moti, kam khaya kar” but at the same time who takes her to her favorite paani puri stall on his Bajaj Splendor. Yes. There are lot of relatives visiting. But the time is spent chatting, gossiping and late night walks, not cooking cooking and more cooking.

Mother in law and the kitchen control

Whether the daughter stays with her mother in law or the sasuma has come to stay with the bahu for a time being, whether the bahu is working or stay at home, whether the bahu is a brilliant cook and churns out delicious recipes or an average run of the mill cook - IT DOESNOT MATTER.  On the one hand, the mother in law accepts that she changed a lot of things in her own mother-in-law’s kitchen. She is proud that she brought in her own distinct recipes and tastes into the family. But now when her daughter in law is doing the same, the sasuma rarely, I repeat, RARELY is willing to pass on the complete control of her den (read kitchen) to the next generation.

Do you find it difficult to share your feelings with your partner ? You might want to know the barriers to healthy communication.

There might be rarely any couple which hasn’t faced marital issues or discord even once in their lives. With today’s complex lifestyles which demand huge amounts of energy and dedication from both the partners, it becomes very difficult to maintain that regular communication. It then becomes extremely necessary to identify the major barriers to a healthy communication and get rid of them. Below are some of the factors which every couple should keep a close watch on:

Do you discuss your marital issues with your friends? STOP

When two people are obliged to live together for their entire lives, the one thing that is absolutely inevitable to surface are the differences between them. The family background and tradition, the style of upbringing, values and personalities creates difference of opinion on various matters within the marital front. This results in arguments, fights, ego clashes plus a whole lot of marital issues. To find solution to the problems, to check the rationality of their own opinion or to just vent out the anger – one often feels a strong urge to talk and discuss with someone about the whole situation. Immediate family, cousins and close friends become the first choice for the couple in question.

when Mallika says that she felt “WTF” when Akshay Kumar said that sentence, then why did she laugh in the first place? Everyone can clearly hear her hearty laugh in the video and it doesn’t look like, she was feeling WTF and uncomfortable and abused, etc etc, the way she has put it in her interview with The Quint. Of course, the joke was bad. Of course it was badly timed. Of course Akshay Kumar did a mistake. We have become so accustomed to sexual, offensive and voyeuristic comments that we don’t even realize instantly when such type of jokes are cracked. But here the question is whether this joke was really sexist as the heavyweight (pun not intended) comedian is claiming.

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