Whether the daughter stays with her mother in law or the sasuma has come to stay with the bahu for a time being, whether the bahu is working or stay at home, whether the bahu is a brilliant cook and churns out delicious recipes or an average run of the mill cook - IT DOESNOT MATTER. On the one hand, the mother in law accepts that she changed a lot of things in her own mother-in-law’s kitchen. She is proud that she brought in her own distinct recipes and tastes into the family. But now when her daughter in law is doing the same, the sasuma rarely, I repeat, RARELY is willing to pass on the complete control of her den (read kitchen) to the next generation.
Can any man sustain the patience in cleaning and splitting the “Palak”, “Methi”, “Coriander” every single week ?? I am sure the men will lose it in the second week itself. And what about peeling the “muttar (green peas)”, the pomegranates and the father of all – the garlic ?? YOU JUST CANNOT IMAGINE THE PAIN !!